I heard this the other day, and I thought, wow…that’s it! It’s bad enough to be sexually active outside the covenant of marriage, but to conceive a baby or to contract a sexually-transmitted disease produces the absolute worst consequences. Perhaps you were fortunate enough to have received neither of these and feel that you escaped a prison sentence. But let me be the first to tell you what you haven’t gotten away without: a Spiritually-Transmitted Disease. In other words, you have an ungodly soul-tie (trauma bond) the size of Mt. Rushmore. You might not think there’s anything wrong with this, but oh, my goodness. You’re in for the fight of your life until you decide to break it before it breaks you. And it will. It’s just a matter of time.
There’s a reason God warns us in the Bible of this deadly disease. He knows the mental, emotional, and often times, physical issues that develop from this type of sexual activity. These issues are not only sometimes present, they’re ALWAYS present. You may not feel them at first, but the longer you engage in this behavior, the harder it is to get out of it. That’s the reason for the verse in I Corinthians 6:18: Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. (emphasis mine)
What does this verse tell us exactly? Sexual immorality of any kind damages your brain. It leads to a seared conscience which is a phenomenon that occurs in your brain. This phenomenon numbs us to guilt and wrongdoing. Our brain eventually tells us that this behavior is completely normal and that there’s nothing wrong with it. There’s a section of the brain that’s responsible for producing guilt feelings for wrong-doing. It’s called a conscience. When you continue to sin in this way, your conscience becomes desensitized. It stops functioning altogether.
Dr. Doug Weiss, Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center says,
“When [you] have a sexual experience, your brain makes these opiates which [are] four times stronger than morphine. Boom! It hits your brain, and your brain lights up like a Christmas tree. This is the highest chemical reward your brain gets for anything.”
What more could a human being want? Not only a high but the highest of highs! But I say, along with the person who penned that obvious phrase, Whatever goes up, must come down. Isn’t it true? Except for your age and taxes, I can’t think of much else that goes up but doesn’t come down. I digress…
In my research, I came upon this example of what someone said a spiritually-transmitted disease is like:
Imagine gluing two pieces of felt fabric together then ripping them apart. Pieces of felt will be stuck to the opposite of each. The concept of a spiritually-transmitted disease is similar; connecting with someone sexually will leave some of that person’s spirit with you — whether good or bad. The more sexual connections you have with different people, the more a bit of each person is left with you, and pieces of yourself become a part of them. So even if the sexual relationship is short-lived, the STD becomes perpetual.
I also found this scientific description courtesy of American neuropsychiatrist, Dr. Daniel Amen:
“Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage limbic, emotional bonding,” he says in his book, Change Your Brain, Change Your Life. “Limbic bonding is the reason casual sex doesn’t really work for most people on a whole mind and body level. Two people may decide to have sex ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they might not have decided on at all: sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not.”
Thus, a spiritually-transmitted-disease. Of not only your mind and body but of your soul.
Copy and paste this link when you have 45 minutes of uninterrupted time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Do7mvye3MMA
The good doctor continues:
“One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will be hurt when the relationship ends. One reason it is usually the woman who is hurt most is that the female limbic system is larger than the male’s.”
Here’s what the God of heaven and earth says about it, which is the only opinion that matters:
- Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4)
- For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. (Ephesians 5:5)
- Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (I Corinthians 6:9-11)
- “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27-28)